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What is sexual violence?
Sexual violence is any type of unwanted sexual contact, harassment, or exposure. This can include words and actions of a sexual nature against a person’s will. People may use force, threats, manipulation or coercion to commit sexual violence.
Sexual violence can be committed without the knowledge or consent of the victim, or against a person who is unable to give consent. Most offenders know the victims they select. People who commit sexual offenses against their friends, family, classmates, dates, neighbors and coworkers can be wealthy, middle class or poor, can be adolescents, adults or elders and may victimize people of the opposite gender or their own.
Some forms of sexual violence may not be legally considered a crime, but this does not make the act(s) any less harmful.
Forms of sexual violence include:
- Sexual assault
- Child sexual assault
- Date and acquaintance rape
- Grabbing or groping
- Sexting without permission
- Ritual abuse
- Commercial sexual exploitation (Example: prostitution)
- Sexual harassment
- Sexual or homophobic-based bullying
- Exposure and voyeurism
- Forced participation in the production or viewing of pornography
- Any other unwanted sexual act
Have you ever been abused?
Have you ever been forced to touch, fondle, kiss or have sex against your will? Has a sexual comment ever made you feel uncomfortable? If you answer yes to either question, free and confidential help is available.
It’s not your fault.
Sexual assault is never your fault. Offenders use sex as a weapon to control others – it is a serious crime. Dressing in a certain manner or drinking too much is NOT a crime. Walking alone or asking someone to your bedroom is NOT a crime. Sexual assault IS ALWAYS a crime. What happened is not your fault.
A sexual assault can be a serious life crisis. It is okay to feel many different emotions, including:
- and many more
How can I get help?
- Call someone you trust for support.
- Go to the nearest hospital for medical attention.If possible, do not shower. Your clothes and body may have evidence the hospital will need.
- If you choose, report the assault to police.
- If you need help dealing with your thoughts or feelings, free and confidential counseling is available.
- If you are a resident of O’ahu: The Hope & Healing O’ahu program
offers a free ‘ohana style approach offering counseling and support to all children and families who are survivors of sexual abuse. The program also screens/assesses the risk of sex trafficking and provides concurrent treatment planning as needed. More info: click here.
I know someone who has been sexually assaulted, how can I help?
- Stay calm. Getting upset or angry will not help.
- Believe the person. He or she is never at fault.
- Help the person decide what to do next, but do not take control of the situation.
- Suggest going to the hospital. The person might have injuries you cannot see.
- Help the person find counseling.
- Do not gossip. Let the person decide who to tell, if anybody.
This website provides resources for victims of domestic violence and sexual assault. Child & Family Service is a proud core member of Hawai‘i Says NO MORE.
Hope & Healing O’ahu program
O’ahu: Offers a free ‘ohana style approach offering counseling and support to all children and families who are survivors of sexual abuse. The program also screens/assesses the risk of sex trafficking and provides concurrent treatment planning as needed.
Hotline number: 808.935.0677
This website provides information on believing the victims of sexual violence.
A website devoted to providing adults with information to prevent, recognize and react responsibly to child sexual abuse.
This website provides information and tools to motivate and support adults in identifying abusers, speaking up and taking action to protect children from sexual victimization.
A comprehensive online resource and the home of the National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE.
A website committed to preventing, healing and eliminating all forms of sexual victimization of boys and men.
A website to report incidents of online sexual exploitation of children.
This Department of the Attorney General resource includes interactive games to teach kids web safety and adult prevention tips to protect Hawaii’s children in cyber space.
This website focuses on all of us taking responsibility for preventing sexual assault and helping survivors.
This website features a program of Coaching Boys into Men to help end sexual assault and other forms of violence.